There are 4 parts to every C-Group meeting: 1. Vision of the Church, 2. The Word, 3. Giving, and 4. Fellowship.

Vision

Right now we are finishing up Marriage Strong 2018! We have 2 more amazing services:

  1. Unity Service - Sunday September 30th

    • Come wearing your Marriage Strong or Preparing Strong T-Shirt

  2. Graduation Service - Saturday October 6th @10:00am

    • Married couples: we will be renewing our vows.

    • Singles: we will be declaring our vows to our future spouse.

    • 26 couples have committed to getting MARRIED at this service! Don’t miss this amazing mass wedding.


Word

Icebreaker

If you had to eat the same meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Main Scripture:

James 1:19  (NLT) Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

Discussion:

The number one breakdown in relationships is lack of proper communication. When married couples don’t know how to properly communicate, it leads to a struggling relationship and a doomed marriage. When we learn how to properly communicate, it allows us to say what we mean and understand what we hear. We become better listeners and better able to communicate what we actually feel in a healthy and productive way.

Q1 - Have you ever been in an argument and forgot what you were arguing about? Why do you think this happens?

Q2 - Fact: 97% of couples who rate their communication as excellent are happily married. What dies this say about how important communication is?

3 Rules for Good communication

1. STOP USING “YOU” STATEMENTS

Hosea 4:4 NLT "Don't point your finger at someone else and try to pass the blame! My complaint, you priests, is with you.

Here are some examples of “You” statements:
“You always do that!”
“You are driving me crazy!”
“You never pay attention!”

Q3 - Why are “you” statements counter-productive to our marriage or relationship health?

Here are some examples of “I” statements:
“I don’t appreciate the way you said that”
“I was hurt when you…”
“I want to talk to you about how I feel”

Q4 - How does using “I” statements help to avoid arguments and bad communication?

2. Listen

James 1:19 NLT Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

How to Listen effectively:
1. Listen and restate what was said to you in your own words.
2. Don’t start thinking about what you’re going to say before the person is done talking.
3. Power down and get offline.

Q5 - Do you consider yourself a good listener? How can you improve your listening skills?

3. Apologize when necessary

We must learn to humble ourselves and sincerely apologize.

Q6 - What’s an example of a wrong apology?

Q7 - What’s an example of a sincere apology?

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GIVING

Philippians 4:19 “And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”

We are thankful that God meets our needs with His glorious riches in heaven. God often uses people as the vessels to meet our needs. Thank God that someone was obedient when they were compelled by God to meet our needs.
Now it’s our turn. There are several people in our city, our church, and in our families that will be impacted when we sacrifice to meet their needs. Today, let’s give, even if it’s $1 so that we can make the same impact in someone else’s life that was made in ours.

What are we giving towards?
This is the first year we are making Marriage Challenge available for FREE! This is made possible through our generosity and giving. Let's each take on the challenge to sponsor at least one couple this month (materials for one couple is roughly $50)

1. The Way World Outreach App

  • Click Give

  • Select "Care Group Offering" fund

  • Write down the group leader's name

2. Text to Give

Text TWWO to 77977


Fellowship

Declaration:

I declare that I will become a better communicator. I will begin using “I” statements instead of “You” statements, I will become an effective listener, and I will apologize when necessary. Thank you Jesus for helping me to listen and not be quick to anger.

application:

Practice correcting YOURSELF whenever you use “you” statements instead of “I” statements. Change the way you communicate and listen to others this week.

Note for Leaders: Take prayer requests and praise reports. Keep a good record of this. Follow up on prayer requests and celebrate praise reports.

Spend some time now socializing and getting to know the members in your group.