Icebreaker: What has been your ultimate goal? Has your goal changed or is it the same?

Purpose: The purpose of this lesson is to give us an understanding of God’s love versus “dictionary” love and why it is important to know the difference.


Main Scripture: 
Main Scripture: “Let love be your highest goal! But you should also desire the special abilities the Spirit gives—especially the ability to prophesy.” 1 Corinthians 14:1 NLT


How do we know we are in love? What have we been taught about this subject? Was it something we felt long ago and just figured, “this must be love!” Was is something someone said to us? Was it something we saw on TV? How did our understanding of love get so off course from its original design and purpose? Love has been diluted by the world and given a bad rap by sin. Some avoid love or the idea of it all together out of fear. Love was never meant to hurt. Love was meant to give us purpose. After all, we as humanity are the definition of love. God created us to love us and for us to love him in return. Even when we turned on him, he still made a way for us in his perfect love. How amazing to have a God that shows us what true love is and pursues us with this true love until the very end of time!

Q1 - What is your earliest memory of experiencing love?

Q2 - How has love been distorted in your life? When did God change that for you?

Dictionary love versus God’s love

        1. Dictionary love is self-centered. Good feelings are the goal.

2 Timothy 3:2 NLT “For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred.”

Q3 - Why is this kind of love acceptable to so many people?

Q4 - How is this kind of love destructive?

       2. God’s love wants the highest good for others.

John 15:13 NLT “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

Q5 -  What does it mean to lay down your life for your friend?

Q6 - Is it easy to lay down your life or is it difficult? Why or why not?

3. God’s love does not demand its own way.

1 Corinthians 13:5 NLT “...It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.”

          Q7 - What are some things we can stop “demanding” and start sacrificing?

           Q8 - This scripture also says that love keeps no record of being wronged. Is this a hard task to accomplish? Why or why not?


As a child God, I will love like God. I will lay down my needs or wants and put others before me. I will love with a sacrificial heart. I will seek the highest good for others. Lord convict my heart if I am selfish in any way. Let my love be pleasing to you Lord. I was created to love God and to love others. If there is anything in me that hinders God’s love from flowing through me, I ask God that you would reveal it to me and remove it from me. I desire to love unconditionally. I will have a close relationship with God because he is the source of His love. I let go of any idea of love that I have had that is not from you Lord.


Married couples: complete your #iminlove homework in your packet.

Singles: Do one act of sacrificial love a day this week. This can be with people at work, at church, school, or anywhere you feel you can put someone else’s needs before your own. Seek the highest good for someone else!